CT III 08 Wives/Girlfriends

[CadetGirlfriend]

I was just wondering if there are any other ladies with husbands or boyfriends starting the academy next week. Im just hoping to have someone to talk to during these long 6 months.

[4theBF]

First, I must say congrats, and welcome to you and your cadet. My cadet starts next week as well. I totally understand your need for an ear during this difficult time. If you have any questions please feel free to PM me. Good luck!

[smallblackfly]

I’ve been coming to this site during my cadet’s application process to learn what I can from people who have already experienced what we will. It has been very helpful. I’m happy to say my cadet starts Academy next week and after almost a year browsing posts this is my first time on the board. Glad to be a part of and to meet families of CTC III-08.

[4theBF]

Again, I must say Welcome! I think that it's great when family can come together to support our cadets. Although we will miss them dearly they will have the support of other cadets and we should have the support of eachother. Who knows, some of our cadets might just be roomies! :biggrin:

[alenabeana]

Hi ladies-

My husband starts the academy next week also. We are both so pumped and just want to get it started already. But, of course we'll miss each other and I know he'll miss our 15-month old son.

Will everyone be at the orientation on the 20th?

[CadetGirlfriend]

I'm very happy to meet all of you. Thank you so much for being so caring and so supportive. Unfortunately, we will not be attending the orientation in Sacramento. They have one close to were we live, so we will be attending that one. I hope to hear from all of you again!!!!

[tmouse08]

Hi all! My husband starts next week as well. We are excited and anxious at the same time. If anyone needs to chat or would like to meet for coffee or lunch sometime, please PM me. I work from home and have an 8-month old so my schedule is very flexible.

Congrats to all and I look forward to meeting many of you on the 20th. :biggrin:

[4theBF]

I know that we will be attending the Fresno orientation/dinner tomorrow night. Then the orientation on Sunday. From what I understand the orientation on Sunday will be great for us (girlfriends, wives) to see because we will get a chance to see just how and where they will be living for the next 6 months. This whole process took so long but it seems like there is so much to do in just this last week.

[SpeedyP]

Next Monday will be a wild one for your loved ones. No matter what happens, tell them to keep there heads up, listen, and breath. The first week is a interesting one. I would have never made it without my wife's support for that 10-60 minutes a night on the phone (depending on how much time I had). It will be a long 27 weeks but more then worth it at the end. No matter what, do not let them QUIT. I had a roomate quit because he was home sick in week 4 and now he is going back to try it all again. Just love them and enjoy the stories!
Good luck! :biggrin:

[4theBF]

Thanks SPEEDYP. Coming from a verified chippie I think that makes us all feel a little bit better. It's always nice to here from someone that been there. I'm sure the guys/girls think so as well.

[alenabeana]

Thank you SpeedyP! I don't think the cadets and their significant others can hear enough encouraging words. As long as the cadet is physically fit, the rest of the game is mental. I think my husband has a great attitude going in and he is getting tons of support from everyone we know. What an adventure for all of us!

[ValleyGirl]

Congrats ladies for making it to this point! You have a very exciting roller-coaster ride ahead of you. My husband graduated II-07 but it seems like yesterday that I was in your shoes, going over and over the list for what to pack.

I know I'm new to the CHP family, but if you ladies have any questions please do not hesitate to ask....I'll try to help if I can.

Enjoy your s/o's the rest of this week! :biggrin:

[LovemyCADET08]

I am new too my fiancee will be starting on Monday, we are very excited. I am looking for the same things and as time goes by I figure we will have a chance to talk more and hopefully get together....Drop me a line, I am anxious to see how the first week will go! :think:

[proudwife]

Hello everyone, I am already missing my hubby. He left last night to Sacramento. I could not go with him to the orientation today, we were on vacation, just came back and had to work today. I am so sad I missed it since I wanted to take pictures of the dorms/cafeteria and of everything. The orientation here in LA on WED, was not enough. I wanted to get an Idea of where they will be sleeping, eating, training etc...did anyone take pics ? Please if anyone did, can you please send them to my email, I would really appreciate it, pls pls...let me know..
My two kids( 5 & 7) and I are very excited for my hubby to be in the academy, we are very proud of him and CONGRATS to all of you as well, our lives will change, that is for sure but we all need to think positive so we can keep on motivating them. They are doing this for them but mostly for us!!!!!

[CadetGirlfriend]

I know what you mean ProudWife. My boyfriend left today and it was really hard to say goodbye. After five years together, this will be the hardest thing we have ever gone through. I'm really going to miss him but I know that the weekends will be that more special. Good luck to all of you and your Cadets.

[CDT_GF]

I just found out about this website yesterday during the orientation. I think it is so great that we all can be on here to help support each other. My boyfriend left the house at 430am this morning to drive to Sacramento and while it's only about 2hrs away..it is still very difficult for me. It's nice to know that we are all going through the same thing and can be here for one another. Thank you!

[iheartmycadet]

My boyfriend of almost 3 years has just joined the July CTC III-08 class today. Yesterday at orientation was really hard not to cry. I wanted to cry because I was going to miss him, I was happy for him, proud of him, excited for him, scared for him, just a mix of emotions. It has been a whole year since he started the application process and we couldn't even believe that today was here already. We are excited and just couldn't be happier that he is finally getting to live his dream. It is going to be a long 6 months but we all need to be there for our men and women and for each other. It is going to be hard at times (most) but we need to hold them up high. Let them relax when they come home, plan little, and just enjoy his company on the couch watching a movie (or even sports). We can do it. It's only 6 months. Most importantly, DON'T LET THEM QUIT. On bad days, we'll get the phone call but we need to be strong and say No, you can do this, it's bad today but tomorrow will be better. It's closer to graduation than yesterday and you can do it. Just lift their spirits up and keep them in your thoughts and prayers.

I just wanted to let everyone know that I am here to talk to and I might need some friends too. If you have any questions about the CHP I might be able to answer them too because my boyfriends dad is a fellow CHP officer. (I know how cute that he is following in his father's footprints).

-Samantha

[Jillbeems]

I would also love to coorespond with other cadet wives, especially those who are in their late 20's/early 30's with young children. I think that there is an interesting dynamic for those cadets who have been out of school for over 10 years (or close to). My husband was really excited about going today, but still felt somewhat nervous about getting back into the rythmn of learning and memorizing new things.

As for me, after 10 years of marriage, it was very shocking today to realize that my husband is NOT just a phone call away if I need to talk. I do know that it is totally worth it (he is beginning to live his dream)- I just can't wait to hear how his experience was today.

[alenabeana]

I miss my guy, too! I last saw him this morning at 6:40am in Sacramento with his newly-shaved head, his suit on and filled with excitement.

I'm 29 and we have a 15-month old baby boy. The evenings will be the hardest as I am at work and busy all day. I guess I'll get some quality mommy/baby time.

I decided to keep a notebook to jot things down in. These are things that I'd normally e-mail, text or call him about during the day. I don't want to forget anything!

Unfortunately, I didn't take any pictures at the academy b/c my camera died at a wedding we were at the day before. The campus is really nice and I hope that the guys have the best experience of their lives.

Stay strong, ladies!!!

[alenabeana]

I hope I never get that dreaded phone call but, if I do, I hope I know exactly what to say! I almost cried when you talked about that b/c I want so badly for my hubby to succeed at the academy. I know he can do it!!!!

I'm at work right now but, when I get home, that's when I'll really miss him.:cry:

Update: Looks like someone removed the post that I was responding to. Makes me look a little crazy!

[christeeny]

I hope I never get that dreaded phone call either. If I do, I'm going to do all I can to encourage my hubby to keep the big picture in mind. 6 months out of a career lifetime is minimal....I don't want to say it's nothing, because I know it's going to be tough. It hasn't even been a whole day, and I already miss my husband. :cry: I wish I was at work to keep my mind busy...I'm going to have to keep myself occupied until the school year starts again.
We need to be there for our cadets....it's not going to be easy, but our support will make all the difference in the world. We have MUCH to be proud of!!!!

[iheartmycadet]

I totally agree with the both of you. I don't want to get that dreaded phone call either and I don't think I will but who knows. They say that most get it at least once. We just have to be there for them as much as possible like you said. I am SOOO proud of my boyfriend. He has done such an amazing job to get where he is today and I'm sure everyone else's hubbies/bfs have too. It's just so much to be proud of and happy about. We all need to do our best for each and every single one of them. It's an exciting experience and it will all be worth it in the end. I PROMISE! I just miss him so much already, It's gonna be hard not to tell him that and just pretend for a while that everything is peachy but I can do it. We all have to! If we all stick together, we will be fine!

[proudwife]

Alenabeana, you just gave me a great IDEA. THX
I am 28 about to be 29 next week 8/1...I have 2 kids 5 & 7..I will also write everything I do not want him to miss and also take pics weekly. Our kids will grow fast and this way they can still be part of it. They can also get mail right? Maybe we can also send them funny pics of them to keep them smiling...that would be nice I think.....

[Hezawrad]

hey everyone. i'm new to the forums and my husband left early this morning as well for the academy. I feel all the same emotions that you all are going through and its nice to have people to chat with that are understanding and in this with me! We have a four month old baby and being a 'single' mom during the week should prove to be challenging, but the important thing is for my husband to graduate!

[iheartmycadet]

You are so right. GO YOU! All of us need to have that mentality. We all are and need to stay supportive and keep them going everyday. It's going to be hard but it's worth it, so worth it! I just didn't realize how crazy sad I was going to be the first day. It's really hard today.


hey everyone. i'm new to the forums and my husband left early this morning as well for the academy. I feel all the same emotions that you all are going through and its nice to have people to chat with that are understanding and in this with me! We have a four month old baby and being a 'single' mom during the week should prove to be challenging, but the important thing is for my husband to graduate!

[iheartmycadet]

They do have a address at the Academy. This is what it says about mail on the website.
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Mail / Mailing Address
Incoming mail is delivered to the Academy on a daily basis, except Sundays and holidays. You will need to inform all correspondents to address your mail:
Cadet ______
C.T.C. ____
California Highway Patrol Academy
3500 Reed Avenue
West Sacramento, CA 95605-1699

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Plus You can't send them food or beverages but I am sure you already knew that. I hope that helps you out a lot. And the C.T.C. (if you don't already know) is C.T.C. III-08.

Alenabeana, you just gave me a great IDEA. THX
I am 28 about to be 29 next week 8/1...I have 2 kids 5 & 7..I will also write everything I do not want him to miss and also take pics weekly. Our kids will grow fast and this way they can still be part of it. They can also get mail right? Maybe we can also send them funny pics of them to keep them smiling...that would be nice I think.....

[proudwife]

thank you so much! Hang in there!!!

[Mom]

Just a note, keep the outside of the envelope as professional as possible. :wink:

[supportivewife]

Yes, today was hard. I really did not think it would be this hard. I found myself thinking about him all day; then thinking Gosh this is only the first day.... what a "basket case" I am going to be. We just moved here from Louisiana, so I think that this will soon get easier like the whole moving away from everyone I ever knew.... did. I would not change it for the world though, because he is following his dreams. That is what makes me the happiest.

[dw]

Just a note, keep the outside of the envelope as professional as possible. :wink:Now that's no fun! :biggrin:

[Mom]

Now that's no fun! :biggrin:Oops!:lol:

[tmouse08]

It's nice to know I'm not the only one going through this. I was fine most of the day until I finally put our 8-month old baby down and the house was really quiet. I got a 1-minute phone call this evening (just when I thought I wasn't going to hear anything) and it sounded like it was a crazy day.

Thank you all for posting what you're going through because it definitely is an encouragement to me! I hope you all have a good week... hang in there!

[proudwife]

Hello everyone, My hubby called me, it was for 5 minutes, But it felt so good to hear his voice. My kids were very excited...He said that it was petty tiring today and classes had just ended at 9:00pm so they had to study and go to bed..he could not say much since his phone charger was in the car and battery was low..:cry:
He said the rules changed a bit and they will be/might be able to use the phone this week between 8-10pm depending what time the classes end.
GOOD NEWS RIGHT!!!!!:smile:

[CadetGirlfriend]

I got a 1 minute phone call last night about 9:30pm; but it was nice just to hear his voice and know that he is okay. I asked him how his first day was and he said it wasn't as bad as he thought it would be. That’s good!!! I too got soooo lonely last night. It's strange going to bed and not having him next to me. I just can't wait until Friday when I get to see him. Hopefully he just doesn't get into any trouble. Luckily I'm leaving town tomorrow with a friend, so maybe the rest of the week will go by faster. I just hope it gets easier after this.

[iheartmycadet]

I'm so happy to hear that you all got phone calls last night. Unfortunately I didn't hear anything and neither did his mother. It's alright though. I know there was a good reason for it. Maybe he was just really tired or something but it's still sad to hear that other people got called and we didn't. =[

[iheartmycadet]

Aww, I am with you on the phone call thing. I hope we both get one tonight. It was hard not to say "I love you" last night or to hear it. I just figured they weren't allowed to use it too. Tonight though! It will be ok. You really almost just made me cry though with your sons words. OMG, that would have done me in. You are strong, STAY strong for the both of them. You are going to be awesome at this. I PROMISE!

Sadly, I did NOT get a phone call last night. At first I chalked it up to the fact that maybe they don't let the cadets call on their first day, but from your posts I can see that's not accurate. Oh well, I'll just hope for a call tonight.

Side note: When my baby and I entered our condo last night, he said "Da da? Da da?" Heart-breaking!

[iheartmycadet]

hehe I hear that being a mother is the greatest gift anyone could have. I can't wait until we get to start our own little family. At least you have a mini me of your hubby to look at everyday and remind you of him. I have pictures and all of them are wonderful but I don't have anything REAL to look at. Your lucky. Have a great time with your little one. He's lucky that his parents care so much about him. And yes, Thank God we are not waiting for a year+ to see our boys. My heart goes out to all the women and men that have significant others in the military because I don't know how they do it. They are much stronger than I am. When I get down an cry, I need to tell myself that it could be much worse.

Thanks, iheartmycadet! I just try to tell myself that we have it better than Army wives that have to go almost a year w/o seeing their hubbies! Poor girls!

I really missed my hubby last night b/c he usually gives our son his baths. I placed my son behind me as I was checking the water temperature. I felt it sprinkle on my hands, but I got a surprise sprinkle on the back of my legs! Oh, the joys of motherhood! :biggrin:

[iheartmycadet]

Honestly, THAT will be priceless. I bet he is going to love that! Enjoy all your time with him. :smile:

Yes, being a mom is awesome, but having a dad as helpful as my hubby is priceless!

I'm looking forward to seeing my son's face when my husband (hopefully) comes home on Friday night.

[iheartmycadet]

I heard from my honey last night. It was really nice to hear his voice and see how he was doing. Thank you for all your support and concern for all of us here. It's very much appreciated!

[Eric's Brat]

Hello Ladies! My hubby is in C.T.C. III-08 as well! I can totally relate to all of your earlier posts, we are all on teh same emotional rollercoaster. I have gotten phone calls the last 2 night however they were very short, but I truley cherished the moment even if it was for only minutes. I have a 7 month old son at home, so it has been crazy with working all day and then just me and my baby all evening. It will be ok, it just takes some getting used to. I am local, in Natomas, so if you girls ever want to arrange a meeting count me in as it would be great together and visit. Well I gotta get back to work, take care & stay strong!! :smile:

p.s.- my hubby shared w/me last night that they already lost 2 cadets :sad:

[iheartmycadet]

I would definetly love to meet or have coffee or something with anyone in the Sacramento area. I know we all need as much support as we can get. I live in the Sacramento area as well so let me know if anyone wants to plan a meeting in sac soon.

[Sampa]

Hy heart goes out to you ladies. I'm a female and in our case is the opposite, I'm the one in the process and my hubby is the one that is going to be left behind if I am indeed invited to the Academy.

Don't think it's easier on men becaus it's not. We lived apart for 5 months before and it was not easy, we were in different States and had not a lot of friends around (that actually happened twice) and I know what it feels like to be in your shoes. Keep your positive thoughts flowing.

I wish all you and yours the best and just motivate your husbands as much as possible...
Tip: what I used to do when we were apart was getting into a hobby, I even learned how to quilt!!!!:confused: and got really big into bicycling...I even competed when we we reunited.

All the best.
Sampa

[iheartmycadet]

Sampa, that is awesome. Thank you for doing what you are doing. God Bless. Your right, it's not just men it's you women that are troopers too! Congrats and good luck in getting into the Academy. It will be hard but you can do it. Do it for all the women out there. Your awesome!

[ani le dodi]

My hubby is having a hard time adjusting- it's all so new! Says it's rough. But he's coming home to visit this weekend... Thank God! It'll be great to talk in person and not rushed and not hushed!! It's wierd not to be able to call him whenever I want, and I miss the 'New VMail' noise that usually sounds when I turn on my phone!!! :redface: Does anyone know how many cadets have left the Academy?? He told me one left in the middle of the night w/o letting anyone know!! Must have been pretty traumatic for him or something.

I remember reading in one of my favorite books about a mom that sent 4 of her sons to WWI.... she said, "Our men will only be as strong, as the women at home who sent them." That comforts me and reminds me to keep up my end of the deal! :wink:

[iheartmycadet]

Aww, thats a great quote. I should print that out and put it in my wallet, car, bedroom, etc. Just to remind me everyday that I need to be strong. It's getting better everyday. Just hearing his voice these last two nights helped me.

I can tell you what I know about the cadets that have left. I know that one was a no show (239), one left in the middle of the night (238), and two have quit so far (236). That's as much as I knew last night. There could be more today but try and keep your men strong everytime you talk to them. They need it. They are stronger than they know and they can do it. If we can keep them strong, they can do it too!

Good job everyone! We have all been pretty good at supporting our cadets apparently because not many have left. Keep up the good work, they will be fine! We're all amazing!

[Mom]

Good job everyone! We have all been pretty good at supporting our cadets apparently because not many have left. Keep up the good work, they will be fine! We're all amazing!Keep up the good work! Its a large class. Lately, the average that makes it to graduation is around 70% (CTC I-07 - 70%, II-07 - 76%, III-07 - 69%, I-08 - 64%.) At this rate, about 168 will graduate. They can do it.

[iheartmycadet]

Totally! I hope a lot of them make it. It is going to be so rewarding when they get to get their badge. It's gonna be emotional for all of us but it's totally going to be amazing! Congrats to all that made it and are sticking it out. It won't be that bad for long I promise.

[christeeny]

I'm so happy the weekend is almost here....I hope my husband comes home. It is so crazy how the academy affects not only the cadets lives, but ours also. I never would have thought that I would be in the situation where I'm crossing my fingers and toes that I'll be able to see, or even talk to, my husband. LOL :biggrin: I know it is totally worth it though! I booked him a flight in hopes of him coming home this weekend. Luckily the airline will give you credit if you call stating you can't make your flight. Hopefully no calls will have to be made...I miss my hubby. But, trying to be positive- if he can't come home this weekend, there is always another weekend coming! My Masters thesis is on brain research and I've learned that positive thinking really impacts the brain...I've been putting that research to the test! Well friends....they've almost made it through a whole week. Only 26 more to go!!!! I know our cadets can do it! :biggrin:

[iheartmycadet]

All I can say is...Im with you. I want my boyfriend to come home this weekend too. I don't know if I can go two weeks without seeing his gorgeous smile and eyes. It would be really hard but it will be ok. We can all get through this as long as we are together in it.

[cari007]

wow way more people posting now then for ctc II....way to go girls!!!!!!!:smile:

[Eric's Brat]

Well... here it is 15 to 5 on Friday!! Boy that has been a long week. I hope you all have a great weekend with your hubby's ,b/f, s/o, etc. I know I have been looking at the clock all day in anticipation for my man. :rolleyes: Those of you that don't get to see your other half, I hope you at least get to enjoy a longer telephone conversation! Stay positive! 1 down only 26 more to go! :biggrin:

[christeeny]

It HAS been a long week. I haven't heard anything from my husband....I hope I find out soon if he is coming home or not. It's 5:15. :( I feel so anxious. Hopefully I'll hear something soon. :noidea:

[iheartmycadet]

I am with you on that one. I haven't heard from my boyfriend yet and it's almost 6 but it's ok. Maybe they h....NVM, he just called YEAH! He's on his way to my house! YEAH! I am going to jump on him and give him a big hug. I AM SOOO HAPPY NOW! YEAH! Bye gals! If you don't get to see your man (or woman) this weekend, don't get them down by being sad about it, give them strength and if you need to vent or talk, I'm here if you need it. I know there are a lots of other girls that will listen to you too! Good luck this weekend. Talk to you all on Monday! 26 WEEKS TO GO!

YEAH BOYS! We're so proud of you all! You can do it, Stay strong!

[Mom]

It HAS been a long week. I haven't heard anything from my husband....I hope I find out soon if he is coming home or not. It's 5:15. :( I feel so anxious. Hopefully I'll hear something soon. :noidea:Liberty at 1700 doesn't mean they will be on the road or phone at 1700. They have to get out of the class, get to the dorm, put on their suits, go to check out, etc.... So, don't expect to hear from them til 6 (or 1800). By now, most of you should have heard, so have a great weekend!

[christeeny]

Yeah...he is on his flight home! :) Iheartmycadet, I love how positive you are. Your last post made me smile. Have a wonderful weekend and talk to you on Monday! :biggrin:

[iheartmycadet]

Christeeny, thank you very much for the compliment. I try to stay as positive as I can. I just know I need to be for him ya know? It makes it all better for everyone involved.

I really have to say though, It was SOOO amazing to see my baby! He has already changed so much. In a great way though. You can just see the change already and I was speechless. All i could say was "Baby you look so amazing!" I was glowing. I was just SOOO SOOO proud of him. I felt like such a proud girlfriend. I totally am. I just thought I would share that with you. Thanks for listening and being so sweet.

I hope you all have your men in your arms tonight. Good luck and enjoy your time.

[Sampa]

Girls, this is just the first week and I do hope to see this nice posts down the road...you make me smile just reading it and I keep imagining what life will be like if I do go to Academy and my hubby gets to wait for me...I just hope he is as excited as all of you are.

Have a wonderful weekend.:biggrin:

[FayeValentine]

Girls, this is just the first week and I do hope to see this nice posts down the road...you make me smile just reading it and I keep imagining what life will be like if I do go to Academy and my hubby gets to wait for me...I just hope he is as excited as all of you are.

Have a wonderful weekend.:biggrin:

+1

[Sampa]

I really hope to be joining the CTC-IV 08...looks like that you are too!!!!
Awesome!:wink:

[FayeValentine]

I really hope to be joining the CTC-IV 08...looks like that you are too!!!!
Awesome!:wink:

Yea...hoping for CTC IV! I had to send in additional docs to the SPB for the psychologist and then my presence was requested at an additional psychological interview :doh:. My background was not complete at the time of my first interview so I guess now that they have all my information they want to have another chat...Oh well, I guess it can't be helped, I am comforted though by the nice lady at SPB telling me I got her "favorite doctor...who is really nice".

Hopefully all will go well and we'll meet in November :wink:.

[rayni]

Wow, first week down now wasn't that fun? j/k Tomorrow I suggest shipping your cadets out a little early. Maybe develop a routine to Sunday ship off. My husband and one of his roomies met ALMOST every Sunday for dinner and went back in to the academy afterwards together. It was great routine which worked for both of them and me haha. The first weekend, as all will be is simply decompression. Have them remember that EVERYONE who has that badge had to do the same thing to EARN that badge. BEST WISHES and if ya need to vent send me a PM or to any of the s.o/spouses who have had the pleasure of motivating their now Officers through out the 27 weeks of CAMP SNOOPY.
(side note I have had MANY people ask me why and honestly never gave it any thought, but can anyone help me out w/ the association between the academy and CAMP SNOOPY? thanks in advanced.)

[Sampa]

This is so funny, as I'm reading you post, I finally thought I would ask the relation between the Academy and Camp Snoopy and there it was at the end of your post...I'm not the only one not knowing what it is....cool...let's hope someone can help us.:biggrin:

Meeting other cadets for dinner sounds like a great idea, I will keep that in mind if I'm luck enough to go, thanks for the input.

[iheartmycadet]

This weekend was amazing! I am so glad that he got to come home and share his experiences with us. I am so proud of my cadet and everything he is doing. He makes me smile and i'm so happy with him. I hope all your weekends went well too.

[taliwags84]

I am so excited to find this site! My fiance is also in CTC III-08 class. It's really nice to be able to find people who know what we're going through. This week was tough for them all. There is so much for them to do! I am so proud of him for working so hard, I know this weekend he spent the whole time studying and working on assignments. I will only get to see him one weekend a month b/c I live so far, so this weekend it was just a lot of phone calls...which was still so great to get!

[cari007]

My guy is in ctcIII as well! I'm in san diego too! So I know how you feel, its so far!

[nrdsrule]

Hi Everyone!

I don't know how your weekend's went with your Cadet (if you were able to see him/her) but my weekend was super busy!! He was so busy studying and doing the things he needed to do before going back. He also made several trips out to buy thing as well! Although he was with us this weekend, he was busy doing other things. I basically left him alone while he tended to his cadet business. :sad:

[CDT_GF]

Oh boy! Our weekend was super busy as well. It was non-stop academy stuff from the minute he entered the door on Friday night. From laundry to ironing (oh not just regular ironing but applying a military press on all the shirts), making flashcards, studying, polishing boots, stenciling name on marshmallow shirts?, running errands to buy additional things to bring back..it was seriously non-stop. The weekends are not a break from the academy...it is more an opportunity to prep for the academy! no real quality time at all. Even lunches and dinners were centered around, "I can't eat that because I want to get off the training tables". We were hoping to do a nice outing on Sat evening...nope, didn't happen. Church sunday morning...didnt happen either. I think an emphasis on time management is much needed! Though I must say...I was very happy to see him this weekend despite everything listed above!

Hi Everyone!

I don't know how your weekend's went with your Cadet (if you were able to see him/her) but my weekend was super busy!! He was so busy studying and doing the things he needed to do before going back. He also made several trips out to buy thing as well! Although he was with us this weekend, he was busy doing other things. I basically left him alone while he tended to his cadet business. :sad:

[Hezawrad]

i learned from this weekend that the best thing you can do is feed them, do the laundry, and basically just be there but not in the way. they need to do most of it for themselves, so if they don't have to worry about even ASKING for a meal or if the bills have been paid yada yada than they have the best environment to work in. offer as much help as they'll allow (laundry, starching, ironing etc.) but just showing that you care about them getting it all done and not throwing a fit they wont come sit on the couch and watch tv is the best thing you can do. I couldn't believe how much work there was and will be yet to come. so staying strong and not whining about missing eachother and not spending enough time on the weekends is the best way to keep them pressing forward. thats all...

...oh, and if your cadet has a bit of a drive to-and-from the academy, bless them by taking their car and filling it up for them. even if you share money, not having to go to the gas station is a huge relief.:shock:

[Mom]

Congrats to all. The weekends will get better as they improve their time management skills. If the ironing takes up too much time, find a same day location that will press the uniforms.

[Mom]

Even lunches and dinners were centered around, "I can't eat that because I want to get off the training tables". He will find (starting this week) between the training table and the PT, the weight will come off quickly. Be prepared, next weekend he will come home hungry.

[iheartmycadet]

Aww, it sounds like everyone's weekend was busy. Mine was full of making [edited]. It was actually fun to do that with him. His mom pressed the shirts (and the uniform) and we filled in the bubbles. It was really fun :biggrin:. He surprised me on Friday night (I wasn't sure he was going to get off) and we talked about the Academy for a while and then went out to dinner. (YEAH). It was a really nice, slow, romantic dinner and then came back and talked to my parents about it. Saturday we studied all day, then Sunday we went to his parents and had dinner. It was really really nice. Not too stressful until Sunday night because of the [edited]. That's all. It was a really great first weekend though. Lots of shopping, eating, getting things ready but smiles and love too. I just was happy to spend time with him and see his cute face and get my kisses. (You could see an immediate change though, it's amazing). He's so freakin' cute!

[taliwags84]

My guy is in ctcIII as well! I'm in san diego too! So I know how you feel, its so far!


Cari007--is you guy going to be coming to San Diego every weekend? Mine is only one weekend a month b/c it's expensive to fly and he is soo busy!

[Eric's Brat]

We were all in the same boat, [edited], doing laundry, and picking up additional items, etc. It was a weekend full of Academy to do's :smile: I was impressed how focused my cadet stayed on what he needed to get done, the homework,the pt shirts, and studying even though he was in his "comfort zone". I was there to help where I could, and keep clear where I couldn't. I am really proud of all these Cadets as I know this is probaly the hardest experience they will ever go through.

Oh, ...if any of you need to know, there is a wonderful same day drycleaner on West ElCamino & Truxel in the Bel Air shopping center, it's called Sage Cleaners. They do the academy uniforms all the time, so they know the standards, heavy starch, military press, etc. It's 3 dollars a shirt...You have drop off by 9:30 for same day service, and they are open until 5pm on Saturdays.

p.s.- as of Friday we have lost 8 cadets :cry:.

[cari007]

Cari007--is you guy going to be coming to San Diego every weekend? Mine is only one weekend a month b/c it's expensive to fly and he is soo busy!

sorry he is in ctc II i meant to type lol I keep seeing the ctc III.....well we are in el cajon (just moved here not too long ago from santa ana). The first month or so he was driving down most weekends but that got old fast (way too far!). He flew down a few times now, but its so $$$$!. I also have gone up there a couple of times. So we see each other about 2-3 times a month, it works pretty well.

[nrdsrule]

Again I applaud all of you out there supporting your spouses/boyfriends/girlfriends because without OUR love and support they would have a more difficult time adjusting to the academy. :smile:

[Mac]

...(side note I have had MANY people ask me why and honestly never gave it any thought, but can anyone help me out w/ the association between the academy and CAMP SNOOPY? thanks in advanced.)
It's pure sarcasm. Pretty much like calling a marathon a "walk in the park", or nicknaming a 6'9", 350 lb. man "Tiny".

[christeeny]

Yep...our weekend was the same. I'm not really domestic, but boy, I'm learning fast!!! I made pie for him, ironed, ran errands...etc. It was fun though. I was just happy to have him home. I already notice a change in him. He made the bed right way, wiped down the counter, was calling everyone Sir or Ma'am, and all kinds of CHP academy stuff. Funny, but I love it! I'm super proud of him. They say the work is equivalent to an AA degree, but he was seriously working harder than I do in my graduate program (and it's not one of those online ones either)! I have a new respect for my husband. I know he can do it, and I'm so glad we have this forum to support one another. :biggrin:

[Hezawrad]

Yep...our weekend was the same. I'm not really domestic, but boy, I'm learning fast!!! I made pie for him, ironed, ran errands...etc. It was fun though. I was just happy to have him home. I already notice a change in him. He made the bed right way, wiped down the counter, was calling everyone Sir or Ma'am, and all kinds of CHP academy stuff. Funny, but I love it! I'm super proud of him. They say the work is equivalent to an AA degree, but he was seriously working harder than I do in my graduate program (and it's not one of those online ones either)! I have a new respect for my husband. I know he can do it, and I'm so glad we have this forum to support one another. :biggrin:

haha yes my husband was proud to show me a "spot-free" kitchen sink.

[rayni]

It's pure sarcasm. Pretty much like calling a marathon a "walk in the park", or nicknaming a 6'9", 350 lb. man "Tiny".

Oh ok THANKS MAC. I get that now. I just know of veteran wives asking us newbie wives why we kept referring to the ACADEMY as CAMP SNOOPY and now I can explain SARCASM. :lol: They'll wonder why I didn't catch that one :wink:haha.

[Sampa]

It's pure sarcasm. Pretty much like calling a marathon a "walk in the park", or nicknaming a 6'9", 350 lb. man "Tiny".

Very Cute!!!!!It feels like a much better place to go!!!!!
I know some officers and detectives from another State and when I mentioned I was in the process to become a cadet here in CA, they all said..."So you hope to go to Hell??!!", now I can say that Hell no more...it's Camp Snoopy from now on....Sir.:cool: Yes, Sir!